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Not Supportive at All!

2011-12-22T23:49:00.002+08:00

Hi All,
I'm getting married! yey!
Finally!
But.....
Ok preparing of my marriage was a tough one.
I had a lot of arguements with my mum.. seriously.. I don't feel the support there but just criticsm...
I took a lot of effort to make my ceremony a presentable one... but whatever I do wasn't good enuf for her... but when it comes to other people views she will surely agree... y?
I know I wasn't born creative but I never failed my Art though... sick and tired of it.. i paid for everything but unable to decide what I want... fuck my life seriously...

31.03.11

2011-03-31T19:31:00.002+08:00

I knew I will have a bad day ahead as soon as I stepped out of the house. First, I woke up late.. rushed my lunch and quickly get dressed. Before going out of the house, my mum kept repeating and repeating whether I had eaten or not. So frustrating and I rushed out of the house without saying goodbye or salam her. Wanted to take a cab from woodlands, it cost me abt $27. So I decided to take the MRT to Bukit Batok then cab from there will be abt $14.. i saved almost half. Stupid taxi drivers nowadays... arrghh i do not what to say lah ended up paying $30.50..reached work half an hour late... 2 kiasu people waiting for me at membership desk wanting to apply membership... arghh just felt so agitated... grrrr

Nine Words Women Use

2011-02-26T04:44:00.000+08:00

Got it forwarded from my email... just wanna share :)

NINE WORDS WOMEN USE

(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever').

(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F-- YOU!

(9) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

God is great...

2011-02-15T18:38:00.002+08:00

Last night had a nightmare... and I woke up crying and my heart was not at ease. I cant recall exactly what I dreamt of but as far as I know it was terrifying.
I took a bathe and took "wudhu". For a very very long time I laid the "sejadah" on the floor. I cried all the way while praying coz I cant remember some of the prayer.. prayed really hard to God to protect me, my love ones and seek forgiveness..
A few seconds after my prayer as I put my palm on my face and say "amin". My handphone rang.. alhamdulillah lebih rezeki for me.. $220 for a 3-hr per week job as I really need extra cash for my wedding coming up. Gosh! He answered my prayer on the spot, ok some might say coincident... no matter what, God is great...

No hard feelings I hope

2011-01-09T20:48:00.002+08:00

Cant sleep yesterday thinking how to make everyone happy in my department. After much explanation with my boss, she insisted on her decision... I just hope that my team mates wont resign or not interested in working anymore.. haiz...

Happy New Year 2011

2011-01-04T17:53:00.002+08:00

Wishing every reader, friends and love ones a happy and blissful New Year!
"Buang yang keruh, ambil yang jernih"
Haiz... 12 more months to go.. felt like there is soooo little time for me...
Will be in a very very tight budget for this year..
Yesterday, I felt cheated and pissed off with the Wedding Photoshoot Company.. The package I took was a promo package, and they told me that everything included no more extra charges! and yeah right.. last night have to top up like $4000 bucks! $200 per page for the album and minimum 20 pages! God.. haiz... I know its a business thingy, ya wanna get customers and stuff like that, at least just tell us the truth..
Its ok lah... just take it as it's a life-time thingy (something you can keep as a remembrance)..
Now i'm a little off my budget... hopefully everything goes smoothly...
When I wanna make it a small function(sweet n simple), my parents wanna make it a grand one but I have to fork out the money...sounds wrong right? And I hate it when I already make a decision, someone will comment something bad on it... instead of supporting my decision.. I'm the one going through it so at least support me mentally...
For Fai, the sister wants to make a grand one but at least she is helping her brother...
Aaargghh.. thank god its once in a lifetime!

Who is the Gentleman?

2010-12-01T20:50:00.002+08:00

- A gentleman is always ready to offer a hearty and firm handshake.

- A gentleman always has a big umbrella to hand

- A gentleman always at meetings on time or early

- A gentleman always admits when he is wrong

- A gentleman never asks about the guy before him.

- A gentleman does not curse.

- A gentleman does not stare.

- A gentleman never picks a fight.

- A gentleman always opens the door for the lady (basic!)

Enjoying Myself

2010-11-29T06:05:00.002+08:00

Recently meet up with my friends went for Swensens Ice Cream Buffet and a seesha (pardon me if I spelt it wrong) hehe... nice time and hope to meet up more often..

I just got back home now... feeling very tired plus happy.. went to watch rapunzel then go for seesha and prawning! nice...

Miss my parents though as they go for a holiday.. had to do the housework! hehe training to be independent..

back to work later in the evening... :( I really need a long break!!

Ghostly Feeling + Weird

2010-11-20T05:07:00.002+08:00

Actually I do believe that Ghost and Spirits exist.. But only got snapped in the picture... last Tuesday, at 5.30am.. I saw a ghost which resembles a colleague of mine and was smiling at me.. I smiled back thinking that she is waiting for Anansa.. I was too busy and when I looked at the bench again, she was gone.. I asked Anansa is Rachel waiting for her.. but Anansa said no.. and she asked Rachel.. Rachel said she was not sitting at the bench at all!! ya the next three days, I was down wif fever..now just recovered.. why must she focus on me and smile at me??? haiz...

Anyway, had a great time with Jit, Dila, Eza and Adrina.. had Swensens Ice Cream Buffet and ShiSha to end our night... :)

god bless you

2010-11-12T02:09:00.001+08:00

Rest in Peace to my Uncle Ajib... Moga Allah cucuri roh kamu and semua amalan diberkati Allah SWT.

All Clear and Done

2010-10-24T03:43:00.002+08:00

Sort things out with Sis and Fai...

For Fai.. will always trust him and give my all to God...

For Sis .. I will always stay focus and not too worry or sacrifizing much about other people and making them happy... when ended up I feel hurt and betrayed...

Passing By Some Jokes

2010-10-24T03:41:00.002+08:00

One Thing Settled

2010-10-13T08:14:00.000+08:00

BTO a success.. alhamdulillah... Settled a house at Punggol..Waterway Terraces...

I dunno if I shud get married... shud i... haiz.. we'll juz see... some things doesn't turn out right in our relationship...

Dear God..

2010-09-30T19:56:00.004+08:00

Oh God, pls dont do this to me... y must he come back... y must i have to bump into him... I just wanted to say Hi.. but it ended up he poured out his feelings towards me.. suddenly I have this mix feelings but I know he's not the one... He's not the one.. Dear God, pls dont do this.. I know this is a test from you..

haiz...

2010-09-29T23:27:00.001+08:00

Just find her getting annoying and annoying.....

Salam AidilFitri

2010-09-26T21:37:00.003+08:00

Selamat Hari Raya to all Muslims!

This year Raya falls on 10 Sept..and on Friday.. what else.. have to work though.. so not really in da mood for celebration.
I recently got promoted to Executive.. alhamdulillah! ya.. hopefully everything goes really well..
Met up with Eza and Dila on Thu.. miss them though just catching up wif life over supper at Jalan Kayu.

I just have to let go this thing in my mind right now... something that bothers me after my sis get to know this new guy. He was a good, friendly guy.. no problem with that.. hmm.. I dunno if its my sis or this guy or its just me.. ya I used to be so close with my sis.. always go back from work together with her.. I always put her first before my fiance.. My fiance is very understanding.. he said ya family comes first as he is not part of the family yet..
The only thing that made me mad that day when my sis said ok lets go back together that day at 4am... and usually I waited for my fiance till 6am.. i said ok coz i wanna go back with my sis. Then at the very last minute, she told me she wanna go back with that guy... I was very pissed off actually.. this is the 2nd time. The 1st time she said she wasn't aware about what she said.. so I was cool. This time really and I hate people who already promise me that he/she wanna go out with me and cancell off to go out with another person? Isn't that ridiculous? So after she told me that I kept cool.. coz ya maybe she's in the mood of love and blinded by love and ya dunno what she said.. so I just took a cab home that day alone.. just wanna go home quickly thats all.. rather that stay and wait for my fiance.. the more I stay the more i'll feel hurt..
Yesterday night.. I waited for my fiance till 6am.. she asked me what time I going home and I said "I wait for Fai (fiance)", but actually going back with her instead of saying "I wait for you". While waiting for transport, I, my sis and that guy had a smoke and again I got pissed off when that guy said, hey, because of you i cannot go back with your sis for two days because she wanna go back with you.. and he meant it as a joke.. I laughed sarcastically, like hey what do you mean by that????
I don't expect people to be like me.. I prioritize my family, friends then fiance/boyfriend.. if married then, husband first.. at least care about how people would feel...
Anansa also like sarcastically tell her "besarkan jantan" and purposely like "Jom, lets hangout at Mono instead and let her spend time with that guy".. I know what Anansa meant but so far Anansa did not talk to me anything about it..

When i wanna go out for breakfast after work with Fai, I always offer my sis to join us as I know how she would feel.
But when it comes to her, she just chucked me one side and go out with that guy. At least offer me to join.. and of course, I got brains to say no if I felt that you are going on dating or something..

From now on, i learned a big lesson in my life.. never care too much about other people.. care about yourself... should i?

From my Inspire:
"To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others."
-Albert Camus

Nothing Else Inspire Me

2010-08-17T05:23:00.002+08:00

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.
-Helen Keller

Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt you represents determinism; the way you play it is free will.
-Jawaharal Nehru

Life is a tragedy for those who feel, and a comedy for those who think.
-La Bruyere

We make our fortunes, and we call them fate.
-Earl of Beaconsfield

A wise man learns by the mistakes of others,
a fool by his own.
-Latin Proverb

To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.
-Albert Camus

Happiness depends upon ourselves.
-Aristotle

Loving the challenges so far...

2010-06-28T23:02:00.003+08:00

It will be a more tiring week for me as days goes by. Courses to attend which affect the schedule. Aaargh.. last morning I could not sleep thinking about who to take over Barnone later at night as Jas last min on MC. After sms-ing all the gals not on duty.. luckily one could make it. Thank God.. I managed to sleep like 10 in the morning and I had to wake up at 2 in the afternoon. Now I can feel the shag.. my eyes is already half-closed typing on this post. Today is 14 hrs for me at Shanghai Dolly.. 7hrs more to go.. Aaargh.. I dun really feel like home here.. as in home at St James hehe.. Work is fine.. deadlines to meet was no problem for me as time is a concern for me.. I hate lateness and handing work not on time. The only problem now for me is the schedule.. whenever one is on MC.. it affects the whole team. I dunno.. I really like working in this company..very..the best company so far in my working life. The bonding among all the staff is there. Your hard work is appreciated. You can easily get promoted..seriously.. I will not be staying in this company for life of course. I am a lady, very bad for my health too.. After my marriage in about 1 and half years time, I will switch to part-time, coz I know I will miss my department if I totally quit.

Getting to know Your Colleagues

2010-06-27T16:48:00.002+08:00

Yesterday night at work was something that I learned. I know my weakness is Leadership. Teamwork is what I am strong at. Being a leader is not easy, There are many things you need to handle juz to make your teamwork goes well. I had been leading the Membership Department for almost 1 month plus after my supervisor resigned. I cannot depend on my Manager that much as she works during office hours and do not really know what happen at the Membership counter. She can only advice. In the end, it seems as though I am the manager of the Membership Department, I planned the schedule, the part-time payroll, the notes, the training and ensure the smooth operation of the department. So far everything went well..till yesterday.. my colleague by the name of Lynn, she worked there for many years before I started, but only as a part-time. I respect her as my senior but that doesn't mean she can over-ruled me. I made a short meeting yest ard 3am to tell the girls about their mistakes and ya the usual Bosses always say. Lynn told me that she wants to speak to the girls personally. Ok i'm fine wit that. So I and Lynn went out to smoke and brought each girls out individually. She talked things out to them as I listen. However, when it comes to Prisc, Prisc wasn't happy at all, she felt that Lynn is nobody to her to talk and that Prisc will only listen to me.
I felt that what Prisc say was quite true.. Lynn was looking down at the both of them and not giving a chance for them to learn. At least now, I can see each of them views of each other and talked out their grievances. The way Lynn approached them was very wrong. Lynn told me to put them together to work and I told her off.. I made the schedule and they have their own timings.. indirectly hinting her that I am in-charge not her..

Settled!

2010-06-13T14:27:00.002+08:00

Part-time payroll! Renewal reports! Dead lines! I'm dead soon... hehe that's on my mind now after taking over my supervisor duty who resigned or terminated.. better keep it to myself.. it was a bit hell at first managing all her paperwork and stuff but now getting the hang of it.. I got help from a lot from other managers. They are very helpful but I have to beware also some can be back-stabbers.. I know who they are so better keep at least one arm length away from them hehe... Haiz.. MGM is back this coming Wed.. the Member-get-member programme thingy.. now a bit stressed up though.. Hopefully, I will end my disaster soon... and gonna meet up with my dear galfrens... :)

Freaky Day

2010-05-11T23:24:00.002+08:00

Weird Weird Weird.. till now I do not know what actually happen.. I receive sudden suspicious msg from my manager then few minutes later my fiance call me and ask " Did you do anything wrong at membership?" I said no.. then I asked y and insisted on him to to tell me.. he said " You will know" till now I do not know anything.. what I know is my in-charge took one week sudden urgent leave and left me with so many undone things. This coming week is gonna be hell for me.. I just amended the roster to cover her shift and ended up with me no off.. thanks.. now my manager ask me for daily report which I remembered it was only updated till 23rd Apr and the reports with my in-charge and I cannot do anything now.. aarrgghh... And what makes me agitated is that I am at Barnone!!! Most of my work can only be done at Stjames.. haiz.. LIFE!! what do you expect.. hope everything goes well...

alhamdulillah

2010-04-26T06:09:00.002+08:00

My dad operation is a success. Thank god.. and unfortunately, he wont be able to work for quite a few months.. so hmm ya me and my sisters have to do our part.. and today, hmm i slept through the whole day after so many days of lack of sleep.. feel as fresh as ever haha.. and now i gonna sleep again.. gd night!

All The Best Daddy

2010-04-13T23:51:00.002+08:00

Dad was warded at the hospital due to some heart problems since last Thursday, just few days after I got back from Genting. Tomorrow, 14th April, will be his operation @ 7.30am. I really really hope everything goes well, Insyaalah... He's still a young, strong man...

Genting/KL Trip with Colleagues

2010-04-13T05:56:00.005+08:00

Had a short break to Genting/KL on 04 April to 06 April 2010. Stayed at First World Hotel. Fun is all I can say haha.. take a look at the pic below.. Oh my my.. KL Drift hero Syamsul Yusof.. mann..damn hot in real life!!

Wed..Wed..Wedding...

2010-03-08T11:54:00.002+08:00

Wish it was Wed...Wednesday.. a day that I love most.. a few more days to weekend.. ladies night all over clubs.. haiz.. but no its WEDDING! Happy yes it is but stress though.. I dunno.. just have this feeling that something bad is going to happen on my wedding day... even now.. I cannot even plan my own wedding.. whatever I tell mom, she will say y not this, y not that... I know how when people are giving suggestions and when that person is not.. I did not ask any help from anyone for my wedding, but if they wanna help better be sincere.. My wedding is still about a year ahead.. I dont know what is going to happen as days go by... I want my wedding..my own way!!! The way I wanted it to be!!! God!!!!!!

My Back Hurts... I need a BREAK

2010-03-03T03:10:00.003+08:00

Can't sleep last night, went to work ,just now, half-dead. Went to Cheers on the way to work to buy two-cans of redbull to energise me up but it doesn't really work completely.. and now my back hurts.. especially the shoulder part.. uuurrgghh I need a really good massage.. missing batam though haha.. Can't wait for later that is my OFF day!!!
My job is actually fine.. The way I describe as if I have to carry heavy stuff.. Nah, sit in front of the comp and start my work.. If I need a break.. go facebook a while.. then back to work.. I kinda love this job afterall.. You need not meet any deadline.. own time own target.. self-initiated teamwork (thats the good part).. you wanna go for your break juz tell the boss, no need for boss to tell you to go break haha.. cool huh.. Most importantly, the superiors here are VERY UNDERSTANDING AND APPROACHABLE.. The customers were mostly nice and friendly, there are few arrogant ones of course which usually will turn off my day at work. Some people asked me y not look for better job? with higher pay? and ending up with MORE STRESS?? hehe.. Ok some say typical Malays, happy with whatever they have.. yes and I am one of them.. so dun jealous ok!!! (hinting to the makciks I've spoken too..)
Haiz.. and this month I overspent my salary on Shopping!! Gheez.. But I took it as a reward for me as I really need to clear my wardrobe.. Bought Hairi and Hadi socks and t-shirts which cost me nearly hundred dollars.. God! Y are baby necessities so expensive nowadays! By the time I have a son or daughter.. hmm.. ok dun think first..

Batam 31 Jan - 01 Feb

2010-03-01T19:45:00.003+08:00

Had a short trip down to Batam for a stress-free vacation. Went down with my colleagues and fiance.. Had a wonderful time there bcoz we did not planned anything in advance! We just go with the flow.. booking of everything was last minute.. had fun though.. Eat, Sleep, Club, Shopping.. Guess what, we reached hometown ard 7 plus in the evening and I straight head down to work at 8pm at Barnone.. Gosh.. I almost fell asleep there.. so tired!! When and where will be our next trip??

Happy New Year 2010

2010-01-04T19:51:00.002+08:00

Wishing Everyone A Happy New Year Ahead! Blessed with luck and happiness with your loved ones....

Great! All the festives had ended.. it has been been a tiring for the past two weeks. My supervisor was on leave for seven days and I was the one incharge. It was quite hectic though.. I had to cover people on MC and the schedule was messed up.. Haha ok the schedule was not done by me ok but it's my fault that i did not check prpoerly when my supervisor left.
Yesterday, finally my off day.. went to watch movie with Fai, ya we watched the Chipmunks! Oh adorable they are..thumbs up! We watched with Jerry and MingQong.. had our supper after that and some ice cold beer at NeverLand.. Finally! I deserve this break! Today, right now.. at Shanghai Dolly.. so bored here.. a holiday outlet they call it.. Been reading my emails since I started at 4pm.. and time passes by sooo slooow..I cant wait till 11pm...God! Tomorrow is another day for me here, then back to St James on Wed and off on thurs.. wee....

Ending of the Year 2009

2009-12-20T19:17:00.002+08:00

I am not looking forward to Christmas and New Year. My work schedule is like hell! I have to go back and forth from Shanghai Dolly back to St James and BarNone. My team is short of manpower when Nadia is on MC and MIA from work. Haiz.. we cannot employ a new staff coz she will require training and we cannot train her on these busy days.
Now, Barnone needs a permanent staff there to replace Nadia by 1 Jan 2010. Sue wants either me or Anansa to be there. I do not want to be at Barnone. It is damn boring over there, you literally do nothing! Well, they call it a holiday outlet. But everyday, a holiday for me gonna bore me someday. Anansa also have the same thoughts as mine. Haiz.. Last night, Sue told me that Zila wants me to be at St James. I pity Anansa coz I know she doesn't want to be there. But the decision of who to be there is not finalised yet. I really hope I gonna be staying at St James.
Like right now, I am at Barnone. So damn bored here... later the Elusion band will be playing.. gonna stuff my ear with something. Yeah, speaking of the devil, the lead singer just greeted me.. haha..
:P

Bored Wednesay Morning

2009-12-09T04:38:00.002+08:00

Here I am all alone at the membership desk from 11pm, waiting for the manager to sign my cash closing. I started work at 6 pm today and end at 6am. phew! 12 hours and right now about only 1 hour more to go! Weee... can't wait to go home and sleep!! Later, is my off day and going out with Tai.. yeah.. I'm so tired and my body is damn aching. Can somebody give me a good long massage? I really need it!!!!
So fast, its December and ending of the 1 dreadful and miserable year for me.. I really hope 2010 is a good year for me. No jobless case, no money case, no boyfriend fighting case.. haha please..
I miss my friends.. Last Sunday, went to Linda's wedding.. suddenly I felt the sadness as I hugged her. Ya, when your good friend gets married its like someone else is taking her away from you.
Haiz... gonna go for a quick smoke before my manager comes! chiowz...

2009-11-24T10:43:00.000+08:00

What Astrology Say About Me..

2009-11-20T05:09:00.002+08:00

And I find It Quite True..

"You are very stubborn too, very hard working but unlucky in important matters in life, very cool, helpful, you have rough word power.
Might put lots of people away from you, you may cause nuisance to others if you are a man, and you often understands others and their problems well.
You are very good with studies and arts. You love to spend!!! Your good will is you are always there to help family and friends. Tell you what you people are little gem! s, specially the girls.. You always fall in love in younger age as well. You often live with disappointments, for an example you have got a degree in some thing.. but you will be unemployed.. or will do very ordinary jobs. But you will take care of your family very well...All you need to be careful of people who will take advantage of your kind heart. And beware of your relations too.. You are radical, patient, persistent, a bit old-fashioned, you live with foundation & order... "

New Life....

2009-10-13T03:11:00.004+08:00

I'm happy and contented with my latest job right now (the one I blogged about earlier on). Got promoted to a full-time and I could feel the satisfaction after a hard night work. It's a permanent night shift and every fri, sat and eve of public holiday is a must for me to work, and ya that is the other part where I need to endure. And that doesn't mean I cannot party or enjoy myself! I still have off day ok.. hehe..Overall, I am happy with great colleagues and friendly management people.

I can't believe that I'm getting engaged in three weeks time! Gosh, ok dont be too excited, it's just an engagement not marriage haha.. About me and Fai's mum, ok la.. didn't talked much to her lately, just a normal chat and nothing more. Once bitten, twice shy.

I changed my phone number few weeks back, just to erase off all my memories with the guys I dated with few months ago and I really really have to start a new life with Fai.. The guys did try to contact me, ya like sending private msgs online here and there.. I just have to ignore.. I have to!

...A Day Which Is Not Meant To Be...

2009-09-27T21:48:00.002+08:00

First of all, I would like to wish all Muslims a Selamat Hari Raya...

Today, is my proposal day where Tai parents met my parents. I was excited for their meeting and was looking forward for our engagement. I had no choice but I think Tai is the man for my life... As per normal, my parents and his parents were discussing about our engagement. My grandma, aunty and uncle also tagged along as I was the first child in the family..
As they were discussing, Tai's mum brought up my dark secrets to my parents. I was shocked and was speechless when she brought it up. All I had to do is smile. I was disappointed at the same time, I was so open to his mum thinking that she is someone elder that I can depend on, as I had no elder sister or brother. Furthermore, my grandma... I had never hurt her feelings before and I think today after hearing that, she must have felt the hurt and pain a lot. I love my grandma more than my parents as she is the one who brought me up. My grandma have not talked to me today after hearing it... yeah and yah my tears now are pouring and it seems like I cant stop it... What a day.. I was supposed to be happy... I don't blame Tai or his parents... I blame myself for trusting people and ended up it bounced back on me..
I dunno lah... the evil feelings deep down in my heart says that his mum did that so that the hantaran won't be at high cost... but I really dunno... I mean what is the motive of her telling that to my parents? I had spoken to Tai about it.. and the reason he gave me was unreasonable.. and doesn't make any sense... now I am really afraid of marriage... Can I not get married? But the engagement date has been set... I was hurt a lot.. I do not know where and how to face my grandma... the one and only grandchild she look up to...

Letting it out from my Heart

2009-08-17T12:48:00.000+08:00

I am in a relationship for about four years with Tai. I do not know what is wrong wif me for this past few months. I dated wif other guys, and even toyed with their feelings but I am still with Tai. I did ask for a break-up with Tai bcoz I fell for one of my date. Yes, I know it feels so good when someone new comes in your life. However, Tai is not willing to let me go. Tai loved me so much, he could do anything for me, I just have to say. So for now, I do not know whether I am with Tai bcoz I can get whatever I want or am I just fated to be with him. I said fated with him is bcoz whenever I dated someone, he will find out, and tell the guy off, leaving me a bad impression to the guy. When he finds out, he still did not wanna let go off me. Instead, he will try ways to make our relationship blossom. I apprehand that I was in the wrong at the first place to date other guys but I myself do not understand why I am doing this. Is this an anticipation for me?
I did get some opinion from my friends, they said that marriage will solve the problem. Once I get married, I will be with him and stop dating guys, and together we will be doing what other married couples will do. Some say, I have to just follow my heart and think ahead of my future. Hmmm, I really do not know what to do..

Time to Ponder...

2009-07-17T00:19:00.003+08:00

It's been a while now that I have not been updating this blog of mine...

I know myself, and I know what I'm doing, and I know who or what to choose cause I have been gifted a mind of my own.

Of course, I will be choosing someone who cares about me, who makes sure that I am contented each and every moment, who understands what I am going through and offer to help at the best he could, who brings me out of Singapore just to let go off my stress (a so-called vacation) and dares to vow that he will be with me till I die.... But I do not know why deep down inside me, I feel as if I could not accept him, I feel as if he's just a best friend of mine.. I know he tried his very best to woo me.. please god, do not do this to me...

Someone once told me..

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage"

I am now making myself busy... working at night, eat in the morning, then go to sleep, woke up and back to work. Off days is like a no off for me coz by the time I woke up it's already late and can't go out unless if I want to go clubbing, haha, but it's very rare. My close friends all were busy with their own life, progressing on careers and busy with personal stuff. I hope that I can find time to gather up one day. Miss you gals.

Updating my life

2009-05-20T10:01:00.002+08:00

Good news for me!! I recently got a job at st james power station in guest services line.. Its just a part-time job anyways..still looking for a proper full-time job where I really enjoyed working at. I felt relieved a while as I got to settle my piles of bills at home which gave me headache everytime i open my drawer. Today, I am feeling very drowsy, luckily it was my off day, having bad stomach cramps.. can't sleep properly last night. Can't wait to meet him later this evening.. I hope my stomach cramps is getting better..

3 things in Life

2009-05-09T05:15:00.002+08:00

3 things in life that never comes back when gone:
-Time
-Words
-Oppurtunity

3 things in life that should never be lost:
-Peace
-Hope
-Honesty

3 things in life that are most valuable:
-Love
-Faith
-Prayer

3 things that makes a person:
-Hardwork
-Sincerity
-Commitment

3 things that can destroy a person:
-Lust
-Pride
-Anger

3 things in life that are constant:
-Change
-Death
-God

Don't be Greedy

2009-04-28T21:34:00.003+08:00

This is a video I got from my email.. Do not be greedy, this is what will happen...Enjoy!

Malam Jumaat - Friday Night

2009-04-17T03:32:00.002+08:00

Creepier...

Recently it was my sis.. and now its me!!!! Gosh.. it was Friday night! To the beliefs of the Muslims, thursday (friday night) is a night where all the spirits became active and it is an auspicious night for prayers. I was sitting at Istana Park at about 8.30 p.m and was snapping a picture of myself when these white figures appear at my background. At first, I thought it was some flash and I zoomed in, to my shocking there was this ghostly face and a white figure floating behind the no entry signboard. At the ground there is another white figure but I think it was a couple walking who coincidently wearing white but I still not sure bout that. When I look at it live at the tree, there wasn't any white figures around even behind that signboard. Errr... luckily that tree was quite far from where I am sitting if not...

Only God knows why these figures is haunting my picture... :)

Creepy

2009-04-13T02:50:00.004+08:00

Hi all,

This pic was snapped by one my sister's friend (my sis was in the pic too), and oh my gosh.. it was damn creepy.. I mark some circles so it is easier to see... however if you look closely enough there are some ghostly faces that appear throughout the whole picture which I think it is spirits that were wandering...

eeerrr.... damn creepy.. but i can't tell you where...

Before n after Marriage

2009-04-10T17:12:00.002+08:00

Perkara
Sebelum Kahwin & Selepas Kahwin

1. ANGKATKAN BEG

Sebelum kahwin
Come sayang, let me carry the bag 4 u. Kesian u...

Selepas kahwin
Beg u pun u malas nak bawa. Lain kali jangan bawa beg ah!

2. TERSUNGKUR BATU

Sebelum kahwin
'Sayang, intan payung, you ok tak darling? Bodoh punye batu!'

Selepas kahwin
Jln betul2 la! Buta ke? Mata letak kat mana? Pantat? Batu tu macam besar
pun tak nampak!

3. PAKAI SEXY

Sebelum kahwin
Lawanye u pakai baju ni. Seksi! Turn on I, macam nak gigit-gigit you
sekarang jugak!

Selepas kahwin
'Ni ape ni, tetek terjojol, nampak longkang! Dengan babat berlipat-lipat!
Tak malu eh?'

4. MANJA DI PUBLIC

Sebelum kahwin
Manjanye syg i ni. Cium sikit sayang! Firm nye pantat you!

Selepas kahwin
Oi! Org tgk ah! Tunggu balik rumah bole tak? Tak malu eh orang tengok?!

5. KEMPUNAN

Sebelum kahwin
U nak makan burger ramly? Ok, besok i masuk JB belikan eh syg..

Selepas kahwin
Burger McDonald pun sama pe! Jgn cerewet ah! Makan je!

6. KECANTIKAN
Sebelum kahwin
Cantik nye you hari ni. Eye shadow you lawa la! Berseri-seri muka you!

Selepas kahwin
Ape ni make up mcm tepung gomak? Wayang pekji pun kalah tau! Bulan2 asyik
beli make up je!

7. KEKAYAAN
Sebelum kahwin
U takde bnyk duit pun, i tetap syg u. Kekayaan tk menjanjikan kebahagiaan.

Selepas kahwin
Tu la, dulu tak nak blajar betul2. Skrg baru nak menyesal! Duit tong sampah
bulan ni camne?

8. SEX
Sebelum kahwin
Kalau kita kawin, hari2 i nak main dgn u.

Selepas kahwin
Eh, i penat tau! Ingat i robot ke? Gatal!

9. KESABARAN
Sebelum kahwin
Sudahlah syg, jgn merajuk. Sorry eh Sayang. Memang salah I. I ni matahir
tak guna! Jangan merajuk lagi ye Sayang. I minta maaf. Maafkan i eh?

Selepas kahwin
Salah you, you nak suruh I cakap Sorry! Banyak cantik muka you! Dah buat
salah tak nak mengaku. Tau nak merajuk je. Awak punye pasal ah! Tak kuasa
aku!

10. MASAKAN

Sebelum kahwin
Sedapnye u masak (walaupun tak sedap)

Selepas kahwin
Mak u tak ajar masak ke? Ni Nasi lemak ke nasi basi?

11. DUIT NO PROBLEM
Sebelum kahwin
Syg, kita mkn dekat restoran mahal tu eh? Mahal takpe lah, skali skala...

Selepas kahwin
Mak oi! Pe mahal! Da la! Mee grg mamak pak kassim lagi sedap. Tak mau ah!

12. LUV PEGI LUV BALIK
Sebelum kahwin
Bye syg, I luv u too. Muaks! Miss u lah syg. (Padahal smlm baru jumpe)

Selepas kahwin
Ah, ok bye! Tak bole lah. Kawan i ade ni! Bye la bye la!

13. PENGORBANAN
Sebelum kahwin
Takpe Sayang, I tak kisah. I sanggup buat apa saja untuk you. I fetch you
later eh?

Selepas kahwin
You ni, takde kepala otak ke yang I ni penat baru balik kerja. Apa salahnya
you balik sendiri. Manja sangat ah!

14. JUMPA LAMBAT
Sebelum kahwin
Takpe Sayang. Asalkan you selamat sampai

Selepas kahwin
Takpe la. Da biasa da!

15. BUANG ANGIN
Sebelum kahwin
You kentot eh sayang? Hehehehehe! Cute la you ni! *cubit-cubit*

Selepas kahwin
Oi, asal bole kentot je eh! *pukul-pukul badan*

hehehe

Life is short...

2009-04-10T16:57:00.002+08:00

Happiness is reachable, no matter how long it lasts.
We should stop making our lives complicated.

Life is short.
Break the rules.
Forgive quickly.
Love truly.
Laugh constantly.
And never stop smiling no matter how strange life is.
Life is always unexpected, as long as we are here we should be grateful.

All About Men

2009-03-29T04:07:00.004+08:00

All About Men

Men are like.....Government bonds. They take so long to mature.
Men are like.....High heels. They're easy to walk on once you get the hang of it.
Men are like.....Horoscopes. They always tell you what to do and are usually wrong.
Men are like.....Lava lamps. Fun to look at, but not all that bright.
Men are like.....Mascara. They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
Men are like.....Parking spots. The good ones are already taken and the ones that are left are either handicapped or extremely small.
Men are like.....Popcorn. They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
Men are like.....Place mats. They only show up when there's food on the table.
Men are like.....Snow storms. You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long they will last.
Men are like.....Used Cars. Both are easy-to-get, cheap, and unreliable.
Men are like....Newborn babies. They're cute at first, but you get tired of cleaning up their crap.
Men are like.....Crystal. Some look real good, but you can still see right thru them.
Men are like.....Dry cleaners. Most work fast and leave no ring.
Men are like..... Laxatives. They irritate the crap out of you

I found this at one of the websites I browsed through... quite true..no offence...

I'm just sick and tired of men. I had been dating a lot of men, with different kinds of attitude. Some will treat you very nice at the first sight and this treatment will diminish as days goes by, some play hard to get because they are better looking and that they can get any girl they want, some will just give u a call if he's in need (ya, you know what I mean, if you don't it's better not knowing).

This does not mean that women is a perfect creature on earth..

The Gift of Friends

2009-03-24T02:52:00.004+08:00

The Gift Of Friends
by Karin Schaefer

There are days when bubbling from us comes the innocent child within,who giggles at the little things and wears a silly grin.There are days when melancholy comes tovisit for a while;the mind feels tired, the body weak;we have no strength to smile.There are days when joy abundant grabs a hold of you and me;wraps us up in all it's splendor,lifts us up and sets us free.There are days when sorrow wraps us in its cloak of grief and fear,'till our hearts ache to the breaking,'till our eyes can't shed a tear.There are days when love bestows us with its wonderment and light;with its beauty and its mystery,its power and its might.And there are days whenlife rewards us and seems to make amends by granting us a marvelous gift,the precious gift of Friends.

Wondering...Wandering...

2009-03-22T23:35:00.003+08:00

For the past few days, been quite busy hmm ok ya busy occupying myself. Last Friday afternoon went to JobsDB expo and there weren't that many jobs available and I did signed up a few. After that, since I was at Suntec so we went to Esplanade to chill out. Many minahs there, I dunno why haha...and as usual at the open theatre there was a performance by some local bands. Later that night, my dad pick me up at Tanah Merah coz it was my cousin's birthday at Tanah Merah Resort. I do not know how to get there and I think there is a shuttle service which I not sure how to take. It was a great time sleeping over, gathering with family and close relatives updating our lives and gossiping haha. I went back on Sunday morning, tired body aching everywhere hehe feels like coming home from a holiday, talk to Froz for a while then went to sleep. I woke up on Sunday afternoon, go online, watch Upin and Ipin hehe, it's a cute cartoon, Froz recommended it to me.. ya then Froz asked me out coz he was bored and I'm bored too on a Sunday.. so we chill out and drink. He bought Smirnoff (I do not know if I spelled it right) and it was nice to drink it dry ( my first time though). He sent me home, I was a bit high hehe but still able to know what's happening and ya thats my weekend... Tomorrow.. hmm gonna be another day for my job hunting and have to go CPF to settle my stuff and hangout with my friends...

Time to Ponder....

2009-03-17T23:54:00.003+08:00

Today, had a VERY GREAT TIME with my chics.. awesome! Ok.. I was exaggerating a bit..
We went for a swim at Tampines Swimming Complex.. It has been a very long time ever since I had a swim.. real swimming as in exercise and we had fun also by the pool.. My body is now aching here, there and everywhere.. looks as if it has been years I did my exercise.. haha planning to lose weight also.. been watching on my diet.. After swimming, we went for our dinner, Jit treated me.. thanks sweetie.. I owed her.. yup and I ate yong tau foo..yummy.. After our dinner, we followed Jit to buy her Omnia handphone, nice phone, Dila wanted to get one of her favourite phone I can't remember the model but unfortunately the colour was out of stock.. Waited for so long at Starhub, we realised that it was 10 p.m. and all of us were too tired to hang out.. we went home..
Upon reaching home, as usual, I got changed, sat in front of my computer and started to do my daily stuff.. check emails.. again received bad news, my job I applied was unsuccessful... I do not really know what these employers want for their candidate nowadays.. It is so fucking hard to get a job (any job!) However, this few jobless months of mine had made a great impact on me.. I learned quite a lot of things such as the ego in me, patience and tolerance... and getting more time to spend with my friends..

Health & Diet Myths

2009-03-16T18:10:00.005+08:00

Myth 1 : Eating less is the best way to lose weight

Fact: Not necessarily true. If you eat less than the necessary nutrition that your body needs, you're gonna grow weak rather than just lose weight. A portion of any food is about the size of your hands. Good sources of protein include chicken/turkey breast, lean ham, egg whites, salmon, tuna. Great sources of carbohydrates are baked potatoes, yam, beans, corn, and fruits. Instead of confusing yourself by counting the calories and fats, why not just have equal portion of carbohydrates, proteins and vegetables?

Myth 2 : Eating after 9 p.m is bad because all calories taken in will become body fat

Fact: Your body does not watch the clock and decide when to convert colories to fat! The bottom line is to eat according to your daily activities.

Myth 3 : If you want to lose weight, It's better not to eat before you workout.

Fact: There's no real truth to this, just more of common sense and personal prefernce. Eating a light nutritious meal a few hours before a workout will help give you energy BUT eating too close to your workout may provoke stomach cramps.

Myth 4 : To lose fat and tone your body, don't eat

Fact: You will lose weight, however, half the weight lost will be from your muscle tissue. the fact is, your muscle is your metabolic furnace; the more muscle you have, the more fat you burn. Problem is muscle tissue cannot be gain back and this means you will have to eat even less to lose weight.

Myth 5: Drinking water helps you lose weight

Fact: Water keeps us hydrated, fills us up and is calorie-free. But no way is it a substitute for food. You're getting none of the nutritients your body needs nad you will literally be unable to function.

Puzzled about My Life

2009-03-10T23:57:00.003+08:00

It seems that my life is in a mess right now, like a jigsaw puzzle, i think worst that that! I dunno how to describe my feelings... its like a shattered glass... but thanks to my frens who really pick up the pieces and putting it back slowly. For now, I have no one except for my friends and family, also God. Remember, whatever you do in life is all in His hand. You might be pretty well today, anything can happen tomorrow. My boyfriend, I guess its best for me to avoid him for my own good. I might seem cruel but I cannot marry someone that I don't love. Its unfair for me and for him. Too bad, he loved me so much but I have to think in long-term wise. I do not want my child to see their parents not happy, it will bring a very bad impression on their childhood bringup.. And I know its gonna be hard for me to find a guy that truly love me, but, it needs to hands to clap in order for the relationship to bloom. For now, juz concentrate on me getting a job and living a single life... (its tough....)

Wedding Dilemma

2009-03-08T16:33:00.004+08:00

How many people in this world married out of love? Have you ever thought about it?

From my point of view, i think only about 75% of them married out of love. They had found their right partner and BOTH of them love each other. They were in cloud 9.
How about the other 25%? They probably married through matchmaking and they had to get married because of parents sake, some had no choice because of pregnancy, some because of sacrifice. Sacrifice? Yup, sometimes we have to stay with someone who loves you so much rather than you love that someone. Get what I mean? This is what I am going through right now. I have been dating this guy for almost four years but I did not love him. Funny? Nonsense? I am in love with someone else who did not appreciate my love but I still love him. Is it merely crush? I still cannot find the answer to that feeling I felt for him. But anyways, he is getting married.. so I do not want to be a third party or an obstacle between them. I am happy if he is happy. This guy that I dated loved me so much, I tried to love him and I thought I could love him throughout the years but I couldn't. I am still thinking of my love. I had asked for a break-up and I even express to him how I felt towards him but he insisted and still wanna be with me. Even his parents had applied a house for us! Gosh! He had proposed to me several times, I just said that I am not ready. I was afraid of marriage. I have to be accountable for everything. Marriage is like beginning of another new life. Am I right to say that?

Time to Ponder....

2009-03-01T16:35:00.003+08:00

I haven't let out my feelings towards MY PERSONAL LIFE for quite sometime though..

Many things did not work out for me for the past two months. I seemed to have lost everything.
EVERYTHING that is needed in life.... love, money.. thank god I still have friends who is there for me when times are bad. However, I felt that this occurence happen for a reason. Why I said that because I learned my lesson, to appreciate money.. and I am really getting closer to my family. I have the courage to let out my feelings and be open to my parents about my issues. I am surprised that they emphatised me. I started to go online often just to fill up my boredom at home when I did not go out, which I have not been online for the past few years.. kinda awkward at first. To my surprised, those online chatters still remembered me.. how sweet. They also gave me advise on what to do and really boosts my self-esteem.
Yesterday night, it was a memorable night for me. I did not expect this to happen. I went online at about 2 am, juz got home, as usual check my emails and surf the web and I logged in to msn. There were not many people online and some of them I did not know so I don't bother. Suddenly, this very familiar email logged in. I clicked on it. Guess what, it was my ex-boyfriend. The person that I really enjoyed having a relationship with. It was quite a few years back, 5 i think. We chatted and I told him about my problems now, he wanted to see me. My heart was throbbing. It felt as if I am meeting a person for the first time. It has been years that I did not bumped onto him, what I only do was to view his friendster profile and look at his updated life. I did not dare to message him or give him a call after we broke up. It is just this ego in me. So we met up yesterday and just hangout. Unfortunately, he is getting married next year. I am happy for him though... Thank God, for this precious and memorable meeting...
Everything shit in Life happens for a reason....

Qualities in a Partner

2009-02-19T03:42:00.004+08:00

Q: Can you ever be 100 percent sure that someone you're with is the right one for you? What are the qualities should you look for in a partner?

A: I don't know about 100%, nothing in life is certain because everything is constantly changing... Character determines how a person will treat himself, you,and, one day, your children. This is the foundation of amy healthy partnership.

I've listed out a few qualities which I feel is important:

1. Commitment to Personal Growth

۩ He/She has personal goals for his own self-improvement, conscious of his blind spots and aware of what emotional baggage he/she has brought into the relationship.

2. Emotional Openness

۩ Not just sharing a home, a bed... but sharing feelings.

۩ If he/she doesn't know how or what to express then he/she is not ready

3. Integrity

۩ The key ingredient to relationship.

۩ Honest with himself/herself and with others.

۩ Doesn't play games. Games belong to playground, not in relationships.

4. Maturity and Responsibilty

۩ Mature - can take care of him/herself.

۩ Responsibilty - Remembering to pay the bills, keeping promises, showing up on time and not letting other people down.

5. High Self-Esteem

۩ Your partner can only love you as much as he loves himself.

6. Positive towards life

۩ Negative people always focus problems, find something to complain about, allow worry to rule them and are cynical.

۩ Positive turns obstales into opportunities, believes that things can always get better and focus on finding solutions.

The ABC of Friendship!

2009-02-16T17:16:00.001+08:00

10 ways to be a better person

2009-02-10T05:28:00.003+08:00

Be a better person:

♥ Symphatise
Instead of cursing your bos for losing his temper or bitching about a colleague who backstabbed you, try to find reason for their behaviour and symphatise instead.

♥ Donate
I'm not talking about a bigger scale here- when you walk through a tunnel from Tangs to Wisma Atria drop a dollar off with the blind musician. Don't shun flag-sellers or charity workers, if not in the mood just turn them down with a smile.

♥ We are family
Treat your family like what you treat your best friend. Make an effort to have conversation with parents and go out with your siblings. Don't take your family for granted.

♥ Learn to count to ten
I'm serious! If something gets on your nerves, before opening your mouth and say something nasty, stop yourself and breathe deeply for ten seconds. Learning to let go is a fantastic way to make everybody's lives better.

♥ Let someone go first
The person behind you in a cab queue is an old couple, you could stand on your rights and go first but how about being gracious and allowing the old couple to go before you? Patience is a virtue and you will feel virtuous knowing you've made someone's day.

♥ Do something for society
Give up an evening out of your spare time for a worthy cause. You know what I mean...

♥ Smile more
Make an effort to be friendlier to the people around you.

♥ Learn to say sorry
No one can be right all of the time, it's what makes us human.

♥ Speak your mind
Be understanding and open-minded. Tell your friends or whoever you are talking to if you what they are talking about upsets you.

♥ Respect others' beliefs
Living in a multi-cultural society should be a privilege, not a hassle, and something which should be celebrated. So no more Osama jokes about your Muslim pals or turban jokes, and you might be invited over for Hari Raya and Deepavali.

:P

Money Matters

2009-02-08T00:35:00.002+08:00

Due to economic crisis, money really matters to us.. so....

Displine Yourself!

1) Buying Food

♥Eat when you are hungry(Eat a proper meal to avoid buying more food later)

♥Do not buy food unneccessarily (eg: chocolatez, potato chips)

2) Buying Items

♥Shop only what you need

♥Buy exactly what might be long lasting and useful

♥Think wisely before handing over to the shopping cart

Some other ways that can save your money

♥Stop impressing other people

♥Stay away from advertising or promotions

♥Don't be lazy, walk if it is just a few bus-stops away

♥Get a piggy bank, $1 a day is good enough....

Happy Saving....

Are you Superstitious?

2009-02-06T02:22:00.000+08:00

Do you believe in ghosts/lost souls/demon/spirit?

Or whatever you call them.... I Dunno....

This is a true experience that I encountered on Wednesday morning at 5.30 am, 4 Feb09.
I was asleep and was awaken by something that is heavy falling onto me. I did not see or feel what was it coz I slept in the dark. I quickly sat on my bed and I felt that 'heavy thing' was going into me through my left arm and before I could say any prayers, I dashed out of my room to seek help from my mum and bumped onto my sister who was on the way to the toilet. She was shocked and asked me what had happened. I took a deep breath and that 'heavy thing' was gone. I told my sister that everything was ok. I went back to 'sleep'- I did not sleep properly and still thinking of that 'heavy thing'.

It was quite shocking though, coz out of the blue moon this thing happen.

From my point of view,

Life....

Always have ups and downs....

Certain unexpected circumstances will occur....

It is only up to you to believe it or not...

I believe that there is souls, spirits and ghosts out there...

They are not out there to haunt us...

They are just sharing their "life" with us in this earth...

Maybe that "heavy thing" wants to share the bed with me to sleep.. I dunno...

Just say your prayers and you will be relaxed...

Living the 7 Habits

2009-01-17T17:34:00.000+08:00

Reorder your life to live effectively!

The 7 Habits

1) Be Proactive - Be in control of priorities in life

2) Begin with the End in Mind - Start with a clear understanding of your destination

3) Put First Things First - Don't let your life be robbed by interruptions

4) Think Win-Win - If you think you will win, then you win! Feel committed to your action plans.

5) Seek first to Understand, Then to be Understood - Don't practice emphatic communication.

6) Synergise - Unite! Teamwork! Cooperate!

7) Sharpen the Saw - Rest, nourish and reflect your mind. Recharge yourself spiritually.

7 Ways to Improve Social Life

2009-01-12T22:24:00.000+08:00

7 ways to improve your social life

1) Bond with your colleagues
Go out for a drink together after work, you never know you might share the same interest.
2)Take risks
Don't be shy on blind dates. Go on with an open mind and a spirit of adventure-you don't have to marry that guy/gal!
3)Call someone
Is your handphone silent on a saturday night? Don't sit in your room and whine about it. Take initiative to call and plan something! Whether it's catching a movie or pre-clubbing session at your place before heading down to Zouk.
4)Rekindle Friendships
Lost touch with an old friend? If you believe that friendship is worth salvaging, take the effort to contact. As long as the person didn't do anything you won't forgive(steal your fiance!), learn to swallow your pride and give them a call or drop an email.
5)Start a club
Gather a few friends who love reading or dancing. Make a BYOF(Bring Your Own Food Gathering) so you guys can munch and talk and save money as well. Each member can introduce a new friend and your club will grow literally.
6)Make time for outings
Don't let your friends accuse you of treating them second best to the current love of your life. Allocate a time to just like you did in your days of singlehood.
7)Express Yourself
Let the people who are dear to you know how important they are by giving presents, gifts...

The Ex-Factor

2009-01-10T00:11:00.000+08:00

THE EX-FACTOR

When you still have to work together
Needless to say, this is one reason why you shouldn't screw the crew. But if you have to share an office with your ex, you have to change the way you look at him/her, literally. Visualise someone else's face so you'll calm down and be more objective. Repeat the phrase "I love my job" to remind you where your priorities lies. Don't quit your job because of your ex unless you love your job enough to suck it.
When his/her parents are obsessed with his/her ex
Take the fact that you're not the only one in this situation. Even Angelina Jolie had in-law issues, Brad Pitt's mum is apparently still a huge fan of Jennifer Aniston. So what? Dazzle them(your partner's parents) up with your charms so that they realise what a star you are!
When he/she breaks your heart then wants you back
We've all dreamt of hearing our lover say he/she wants us back. Some immature guys breaks up with gals because they can sleep with other women. And women tend to fall into other guy's sweet talk and after got dumped came running to you back. If you're seriously considering another chance, make him/her wait. Think about the reason you split. Listen to 'There you go' by Pink, you might have a clue.
When he/she moves on before you do
It doesn't matter who initiated the split, you will always want to be the first one to debut a sexy date and be glamorous at a party, or cling onto a handsome hunk. Maybe, you heard him/her getting married before you do. In this case, surround yourself with friends who will support you. Or use him/her as a psychological tool to help you do teh same. Watch "Legally Blonde" and you know what I mean.

The Boyfriend Bible

2009-01-07T22:37:00.001+08:00

1) Be yourself
-If you cant love yourself, you are not gonna be much good at someone loving someone else. When you first meet a guy, be yourself and he will love you for who you are!
2) Do Not Neglect Your Buds
- Remember the people who were there for you before your boyfriend walked into your life!
3) Do Not Talk about your Ex
- If you start telling your boy how great or terrible your ex was, he'll start to feel insecure, which is bad news for your relationship.
4) Respect Yourself and Your Boy
- Accept the ways he is different to you, as well as his beliefs, ideas and the individual he is.
5) Give Each Other Space
- Too much time together will send you both insane!
6) Communicate
- Having meaningful conversations regularly will help you learn more about one another. Talking it over is the best way to resolve conflict.
7) Learn to Trust Each Other
- Its natural to feel a little jealous if he's chatting with other gals.
8) Do not succumb to Sex Pressure
- Sex only happens when two people are deeply in love and COMMITTED! Your boyfriend should respect your choice or decision. If he doesn't, then he's not a boyfriend material.
9) Learn to Give and Take
- Giving a gift can make you feel as happy as receiving one.
10) Remember who's Number One!
- Remember how special and unique you are! You are number one afterall!